Military Girl HandBook....

MILITARY GIRL HANDBOOK

1. Don't count on anything!

2. Don't listen to ANYONE on the outside. All you will get is negative remarks, which will make things harder for you to deal with.

3. When he becomes stubborn and a royal pain in the ass, just remind yourself he's probably had a bad day, and being away from you is hard on him too. So just let him rant and dont take it personal.

4. When youre down, treat yourself.

5. Learn how to listen if you dont know how! He will need you, you will be the one he comes to when he needs to bitch, but dont bitch back...that is what the Navy/Girlfriends/Fiancées/ Wifes are for! This is a hard time for our men and they NEED us much more than sometimes they think they do!

6. Love your Sailor be truthful, and reassure him, even if he is deployed he'll have someone to come back too!

7. He will try to pull away at some point. Whether directly telling you to move on, not wait for him or just becoming distant. It's a way they try of dealing, stick with him cause he really does want (and need) you there.

8. When he is away for a long time, or even just a couple hours away, write a lot of letters! Communication is key to a relationship.

9. Some of his friends will probably be morons - expect this.

10. You arent the only woman in his life (his mom misses and loves him too!) so make sure she is updated on what is going on with him.

11. He needs to feel important so don't hold back on the compliments - remind him how proud you are of what he does.

12. Chances are they won't call when they say they will (that especially applies for deployed!).

13. Don't buy that nonrefundable airplane ticket too early. 

14. When eating with a sailor you either finish your "chow" in 15 minutes or less or be stared at until you are finished.

15. Never take one single minute with them for granted. Live each day with them like its the last one you'll have for a while, because with the Navy, it just might be!

16. Take lots of pictures, so you can remember what each other looks like!

17. Don't even TRY to compare your Sailor to ordinary men. You can no longer bitch about broken plans, that phone call you were supposed to get but didn't, missed birthdays and anniversaries, his snoring (hey, at least he's sleeping BESIDE you), spending more time with "the boys" than you, etc., etc., etc...

18. Always look on the bright side of things. How many of your gal-pals get their first encounter, first date, first kiss from their men over and over again??

19. Gotta be able to keep up with your man. We give our Sailors a whole new meaning of PT =)

20. Even if he says he will, he probably won't. Maybe really means probably not OR probably not when he said he would (example: "I might be able to call you tomorrow" but he can't find the time to call until a week later or "I might be able to come home next month for a week"...that might turn into 2 weeks)

21. Being a Sailor's girlfriend/fiancée is the toughest job in the Navy. You have to deal with stress similar to the wives, without the promise of forever or the benefits and support they get.

22. We find ourselves using military lingo. "I'm gonna go get my room squared away", "It's chow time", or using military time

23. Patience is the biggest key to making the relationship work... you have to wait a lot but in the end, waiting is what made it all worthwhile.
(I didn't write this)

The price You Pay Loving A Seabee...

The Price You Pay for Loving a Seabee

Loving a seabee has a high price to pay.
It's an ache in your heart while he is away.
It's being alone with nothing to hold,
It's being young, yet feeling so old.

It's having him whispering his love to you.
And whispering back that you love him too.
Then comes a kiss and a promise of love,
And knowing that you have been blessed from above.

Then reluctantly, painfully, letting him go.
While your dying inside from wanting him so.
Watching him go, with eyes full of tears.
Standing alone with your hopes, dreams and fears.

It's sending a letter with the stamp upside down,
To a far away love in a far away town.
It's going to church to kneel and pray,
And really meaning the things that you say.

And all the while that he is away,
You just keep on loving him more each day.
That love will bring hope and foster your dreams,
And lift you to Heaven where his love light gleams.

Days go by and there's no mail for a spell,
You wait for some word to hear that he's well.
Then the letter arrives and your given to joy!
You're like a small child with a shiny new toy!

With fingers a-tremble and heart beating fast.
You tear open his letter and read it at last.
Yes! He is well! But he misses you so...
It's filled with the love you've wanted to know.

Weeks are now months, and months are a year.
You wait for the days when you'll have no more fear.
Time passes slowly, yet it's gone very fast,
You're barely aware it is here till it's past.

Yes loving a soldier brings bitterness and fears,
loneliness and sadness, and despondent tears.
Loving a soldier really isn't much fun,
But it's well worth the price when the battle is won.

Remember he's thinking about you every day.
He's sad and he's lonely being so far away.
So love him, and miss him, and hold your head high.
Be strong and have faith, wipe that tear from your eye.

No, he won't be the same when he finally comes home.
He'll be older and wiser than the man that you've known.
But you'll also have changed, being stronger and bolder.
That's the price that you pay for loving a sailor.

(I didn't write this)